"I’m pretty strict with the kids and he’s the good guy": Rachel Kolisi talks family, sports and love
History was made in May when Siya Kolisi was named the player who will be leading the Springboks against England in the three-Test series, a truly inspiring moment for South Africans since it will be the first time a black player will take this lead role in the 127 years of the sport’s history.
So, what is it like to be partners in the parenting game with such a central sporting figure? We caught up with her.
“I’m pretty strict with the kids and he’s the good guy, always spoiling and letting things slide,” jokes Rachel Kolisi, who first met her hubby 6 years ago.
The mom of four says she wasn’t all that impressed with the star athlete when they first met, but somewhere along the line she knew he would be special to her.
“Siya and I meet at a dinner with mutual friends in Stellenbosch. I didn’t think he was anything special that night, actually thought he was quite rude because he didn’t greet us when we arrived. We became very good friends a few months later, and during that time I realised I needed him in my life, somewhere – as a friend, partner, whatever – just somewhere he needed to be there,” she shared with Parent24.
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And that he is. The two wed three years ago and their family grew overnight in a matter of a few short years.
The couple opened their home to Siya’s siblings, Liyema and Liphelo, in the same year they welcomed a baby boy, Nicholas Siyamthanda, instantly becoming a blended family.
Liyema and Liphelo were living in foster care after Siya’s mother passed away, and in 2014 Siya and Rachel adopted them.
Rachel says her relationship with the two kids came very naturally and their bond is clearly evident.
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South Africans can’t get enough of the Kolisis.
Rachel is massively popular on social media, racking up more than 20 000 followers on Instagram, where she regularly shares the family’s experiences, and they keep giving us Aww moments to remember.
The video below featuring Nicholas belting out the national anthem like a pro went viral in April.
In November of last year, the family went from five to six when Rachel and Siya welcomed their baby girl Keziah to the fold.
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But life as a wife to a sports star is not as glamorous as it may seem.
“It’s very tough raising a family with an athlete, Rachel admits. “They travel so much, they are hardly around. So sometimes having to be mom and dad is hard. He’s also tired when he’s home because he spends most of his day training and his body gets sore.”
The two always prioritise couple time though and Rachel says Siya is particularly good at keeping the romance alive in their relationship.
“He’s very good at organising time away when it’s just him and me. We also try to have a date night once a week or every two weeks,” she told us and added that since they started their family really young, the two plan on travelling the world once the kids are all grown up.
And how does mom take care of her own needs?
“I nurture myself by exercising daily – I haven’t been able to since I’m breastfeeding right now but that’s usually what I enjoy as ‘me time’.”
Looking through Rachel’s Instagram account, it’s clear that the couple shares a passion for philanthropy, and the mom told Parent24 that they are planning on giving back in a special way.
“I’m not involved in any specific charities. If there’s a need somewhere and I can do something about it, I will. We are both very passionate about it and hope to start a foundation in the near future.”
The future is definitely bright for the Kolisis and we can’t wait to see how life unfolds for the loving family!
When asked if Rachel had any advice to share with other blended families in South Africa, Rachel had some pretty solid words: “It’s important to remember that our time on this earth is limited, and we don’t know when it ends for us. So keep forgiving and loving.”
Words to live by for sure.
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